When you’re blindsided in a marriage it’s a natural reaction to want to take everything from your spouse so they can hurt as much as you do. But that’s not really a good idea. It’s better to focus on the future, instead of the painful past, if you want to have a good post-divorce life.
Here are 3 reasons why you should want your ex to be financially stable:
- Your ex will be able to support your children. You won’t have to provide all of the daily financial support for your kids.
- Kids are expensive. It’s good for your ex to not be financially destitute so you don’t have to foot the bill all by yourself.
- You want your ex to be able to support themselves so they can pay their own bills. If you have any joint debts and your ex stops paying then the creditors are going to come looking for you to get their money.
Going to mediation could buy you some good will with your ex. Sometimes people are frightened of lawyers and getting one involved may place them on the defensive. Your ex is more likely to comply with the mediation agreement because they had more input, feel the settlement is fair and something they can live with, and probably don’t hate your guts because you didn’t try to take everything from them.
Most importantly, going to mediation can help both of you be more financially stable because it’s a more affordable process.
And, if you don’t end up solving everything in mediation you can still have your day in court.