How much will this cost?
Mediation is cost effective and all fees are split between you and your spouse. For example, my hourly rate is $300. What that means is that you pay only $150 an hour because your spouse will pay the other half.
To put this into perspective, if you were to hire an attorney you would be lucky to find one for $300 an hour, and if you did you'd be paying their entire rate and your spouse would be paying their own attorney's rate. The more you both pay to attorneys the less there is for you and your children. You worked hard for that money and should keep as much of it as you can.
Since California is a community property state why go to mediation when we can just split things down the middle?
Mediation isn't about splitting things down the middle. It's about finding solutions you can both be happy with, or at least live with.
How can I get my spouse to mediation since I know they’ll never agree?
No one wins in divorce and the longer courts and lawyers are involved the more you and your spouse will lose.
Your spouse can also book at free 15 minute phone call with me so they can hear this same information from me.
Can’t I do just as well in court since everything will be split 50-50?
The judge doesn't know you or your children and you don't spend enough time in front of a judge for them to get to know you. In addition, it takes a long time to get a court date and even when you get that date you may be sitting in court all day waiting for your case to be called. That's a lot of lost time and money being away from work.
The other things to consider is that there may be somethings you don't want to split 50-50 and you can't get that type of outcome in front of a judge. Mediation allows you to get creative in how you and your spouse will divide your assets and provide care for your children.
I need some peace, isn’t giving up better?
I understand how you feel but you can't give up your power now because the decisions you make today you and your children will have to deal with for years to come. If you can't do this for yourself then do it for your children. They will thank you for your bravery.